Q: Who’s less well shod than the shoemaker’s wife?
A: The shoemaker
I received a call this week from Amiee, an attendee at my February retreat. She gave me a nearly unbelievable update on her life.
First, she reminded me of the intentions she’d set at the retreat:
- To move from Detroit to North Carolina
- To live in a beautiful house full of sunshine with a back yard full of flowers
- To find herself a new well-paying job that she loved
- To spend more time with her kids
- To be more relaxed and at peace.
She spent the time with me getting clear about what was holding her back and what she’d have to quit to get what she truly wanted. She opened up to receive help in order to move in a more positive direction.
Amiee went back to Michigan Feb 10, committed to her intentions but completely confused how any of them would actually come true. She had a high paying job that would be tough to replace. She doubted her husband would want to quit his job. Selling their properties in the tough Detroit market would be nearly impossible. She was already so stressed out from the details of her current life that she worried moving would put her over the edge. But she agreed to use the technique she’d just learned to “play the movie” every day of her dreams coming true.
Five days after she got back, her husband’s company – completely out of the blue –closed his division, and he was transferred to guess where? Charlotte, NC. Then, in mind-boggling rapid order they quickly sold both their house and vacation cottage. They even sold their ski boat and patio furniture on a cold, wet, wintery Sunday night from their ad on Craig’s list. The family moved to a beautiful new home in Charlotte, complete with a sunroom and a backyard full of flowers and magnolia trees.
To facilitate the relocation and get her children settled in school Amiee took two months off, the first real time this self-admitted workaholic had taken in decades. She just started a new job in the same industry that she loves. Her mother told her she’d never seen her so relaxed.
What are the chances that just three months after she set her intentions that they’d all come true? Most of us would answer, “Slim or none.” Yet the story is true.
So I asked her, “What made the difference?”
She replied, “Taking the uninterrupted time to step back and ask for what I wanted, do the exercises and go deep.”
And that is when it hit me. I’m the shoemaker. I hold retreats for others, feeling privileged to watch them shift and get what they really want. Yet, I haven’t been to a similar kind of facilitated retreat for myself in years.
So, I took a cue from Amiee. September 13-16 I’ll be in Toronto where I will be a participant at a fabulous retreat, asking for help, getting clear about my intentions and what’s holding me back. The shoemaker is getting new shoes.
I suspect many of you are just like me- joyfully helping others, making sure they have what they need and want. So let me ask the all-important question, “What about you?”
If it is time for you to take your next step, please consider getting away from it all and really focus. My next retreat will be held November 7-10 in Corona del Mar. (See below) I can host four people. For the rest of you, there are many terrific retreats to choose from. Get online and ask your friends and find a way to go.
Of course there is no guarantee that any of us will have the dramatic response to our intentions that Amiee did. Even she is incredulous at what has happened to her. But we all know that even small shifts can have huge, life-changing effects. Maybe you’ll choose to spend time alone in a cabin in the woods or you’ll house-sit for your friend for a long weekend. However you do it, find a way to get yourself some new shoes.
You deserve them.